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Ahhh… affection! We all want it, but maybe some of us don’t want it as much.
We could say that we both crave affection, but at different times. Affection is one of those things, like most things, that has some gray areas. We both like to cuddle on the couch sometimes while watching TV, but we can’t stand touching each other while we’re sleeping. Just… NO! While we both crave affection, we don’t always crave the same amount of affection as the other.
So what happens when an affectionate person gets together with a non-affectionate person?
You get something like us! We describe our relationship as a perfect blend of “wtf? no, I’m not doing that” and “let’s totally do that.” We naturally always meet in the middle, almost perfectly. So if we’re so good at meeting in the middle, how do we manage with being the polar opposite of one another? We just do. The thing is, if we didn’t have each other to take the edge off our extreme sides, we would both be too much of one thing. No, we aren’t saying we’re super boring people or too extreme that we need help being controlled, we’re just saying that we level each other out.
Hannah is pretty affectionate… and also a Scorpio.
If you haven’t read about Scorpio’s traits, well, here’s a few positive and negatives.
Scorpio’s are also known to be “lustful” people (I cringed while typing that but I’m sorry, it had to be said.) As you guys can see, Hannah being Hannah (who also happens to be a Scorpio) makes her powerful force. I mean that in a super endearing way of course because I’m her girlfriend and I adore her.
While I mentioned some positive and negatives of Scorpio traits, this blog post isn’t about our star signs. Hannah is an overall affectionate and likeable person. She’s edgy and seductive, kinda like a vampire…in a non-bloodsucking way. Being affectionate and “passionate”, she can be over the top for me. But she also brings me out of my shell in the best way possible. If it weren’t for her being so overly affectionate, I probably would never feel comfortable enough to express when I need affection.
Ariana is… an Aquarius.
I think it’s funny how this post turned into a background on our sun signs. But it’s because our signs explain our tendencies so well! Ariana is an Aquarius to a T. Actually, her sun, moon, and rising signs are all Aquarius, so she’s pretty much a super-Aquarius at this point. So what does being an Aquarius have to do with affection? Let me break it down for you.
Her negative traits have more of a monopoly on how she expresses affection. She can retreat into herself a lot, and has a tendency to separate herself instead of communicating that she needs affection. She also is a shy person, which is probably just made worse by her sun sign traits. She’s the first to admit that even after two years together, she still feels shy about initiating affection. This really doesn’t bother me, and I think a part of me enjoys being able to push her boundaries.
Ariana is so unique. She’s smart, direct, and driven while also being soft and sensitive. Even though I can see a lot of Aquarian traits in her, she’s definitely not all that. Ultimately, I think she needs more affection than she initiates (or is willing to admit). I know this because when I’m not feeling affectionate, or I’m distracted, she gets her feelings hurt. It’s an easy fix though, a couple minutes of couch cuddles and asking her about her day will do the trick!
On the other hand, if I go in for a random hug without Ariana’s attention, she’ll most likely tense up and just stand there. I try to be mindful, but sometimes you just gotta go for it. Most of the time, Ariana not being so affectionate (and me being the opposite) doesn’t create any conflict in our relationship. We always make sure we’re understanding each other at any given moment. If Ariana knows I’ve had a hard day, she’ll try to step her affection game up a little more and that’s important to me. Likewise, if Ariana is feeling especially affectionate in a moment, I welcome it and we just go with the flow.
So, I think we painted a clear picture of one another.
How do we make all of that work? Like we mentioned earlier in the post, we happen to complement each other, despite our completely different tendencies. We don’t want to say that opposites attract, but our dynamic with affection is definitely a yin/yang situation.
The important thing is that we both get what we need from each other.
Not just want we want, but what we need. We can demand or want a million things from one another, but we always get what we need from each other in the end.
Until next time,
Ariana & Hannah