Our styles are very different.
Well, actually our styles have pretty similar vibes, we just gravitate towards opposite ends of each style. Although we shop at the same stores, we go to different sections. When we like a collection, we are rarely both drawn to the same pieces. This is pretty much due to one major difference in how we express ourselves with clothes: Ariana is drawn to menswear while I’m drawn to womenswear.
This difference usually means that we never both like the same item of clothing. Until we discovered these tops from Canapé!
So because we LOVE these tops, (and because we realized how rare it is for us to love the same item of clothing) we wanted to share each of our experiences with style.
I’m not completely sure how to describe my style, but I’ll go ahead and give it my best shot. My style seems to range between dapper, preppy, edgy and streetwear. I have to laugh at myself sometimes because I can’t seem to stick to one style of clothing. When Hannah and I first started dating and she was courting me like a beautiful princess, she would always have to pick me up because I didn’t have a car. One day, she would pick me up and I would be wearing doc martens, black jeans, and a band tee. While the next day, I would be wearing an Adidas track-suit with matching Adidas. I wouldn’t say I’m the most adventurous person with clothing, but whatever I choose to wear, I feel confident in.
My wardrobe consists of 99% menswear.
I kid you not, I probably own about 3 pieces of women’s clothing. This is due to two major things. The first reason is that women’s clothing just doesn’t fit my body how I’d like it to. You’re probably asking: “well, you’re a woman. Shouldn’t women’s clothing fit you better?” And the answer is yes and no. Clothing should fit you however you see fit. If you’re someone who likes to wear more loosely fitted clothing, you should do that. If you’re a person who prefers a tight or tailored fit, you should wear clothing that hugs your body more. I actually lie in the middle. I prefer my tops to be looser on my body and my bottoms to be more tailored to my size and body type. Women’s clothing rarely accomplishes both of these fits.
The second point is that women’s clothing feels too feminine for me. Even the more androgynous pieces of women’s clothing don’t give me that confidence boost. When I shop, I look for pieces that compliment my style but also give me that “I’m going to kick ass in this outfit” feeling. You guys probably know what feeling I’m talking about. Confidence in what you’re wearing is the most exciting part of style.Feeling confident in what you're wearing is the most exciting part of fashion Click To Tweet
I didn’t always wear menswear.
I wore women’s clothing up until I was about 16 years old and I always felt so “ehh” about it. I never felt confident in women’s clothing. After all, what is the point of a rad ass outfit if you don’t feel confident in it? Menswear is one of those things that has changed my perspective on clothing. I have always loved clothes, but I wasn’t always confident in what I was wearing. Discovering the world of menswear made me feel like clothes weren’t just something to put on but something to have fun with.
I didn’t always have an interest in ties, bowties and all of that fun stuff. Once I started college, I realized that many people around me thought I was about 5 years younger than I actually was. Hearing this over and over made me a bit insecure in how I presented myself to the world. I figured my style was too “immature”. So what did I do? I made the decision to invest in a few “mature” pieces of menswear. I went on to buy a few blazers, button-up shirts, pants, and a nice pair of shoes. I might have also obsessed a little too much and subscribed to few menswear subscription boxes such as SprezzaBox and Gentleman’s Box. I figured, if I looked like a badass adult, people wouldn’t think I was 14 anymore.
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That’s why I love Canapé’s tops so much. They’re the perfect balance of masculine and feminine that fits my style perfectly. They were so fun to style during our shoot that they changed my perspective on women’s clothing.
My style journey was a lot simpler than Ariana’s. For most of my pre-adult life, I was a jeans-and-t-shirt kind of girl. I didn’t put a ton of thought into expressing myself through clothes, beyond the color of my high top Chuck Taylor’s and which of my dad’s band shirts I was stealing. However, entering my junior year of high school led to me wanting to dress like the adult I thought I was (lol, youths). I gravitated towards more complex outfits, and bought a lot more pairs of heels.
After this shift, my style went through a lot of changes.
A friend once told me that my style changes every year like clockwork: one year I’m a grungy tomboy, the next I’m preppy, and the next I dress like a hippie (sophomore, junior, and senior years of high school, respectively). These style shifts are still definitely a part of my life. I like change, and I like trying new things. However, I’ve also been able to narrow down things within each style I’ve tried that I truly do like and will wear regardless of what overall phase I’m in.
I (almost) always go for women’s clothing.
The exceptions to this rule are usually with jackets and t-shirts, which are usually just better in the men’s section. But I usually have to go for women’s clothing because of my style, and also because of my body. I’m not an androgynous girl, and men’s clothing never looks right on my body.
Learning this about myself was a process.
During my first year of college, I came out as bisexual. As time went on, and I learned more about myself, I leaned more and more towards the “lesbian” label. During these realizations, my style changed dramatically to reconcile my appearance with my sexuality. What I discovered early on in my “coming out journey” was that I didn’t come across as particularly gay. To fix this, I turned to the clothes I wore with a critical eye and decided to dress “more gay”. For me, that meant reverting back to the t-shirt and jeans look of my early years because, however much I tried, menswear just did not fit me.
This is why Canapé is so awesome.
I’ve definitely come to terms with my appearance, and my style reverted back to feminine as a result. However, I still love the look of button downs, and this is the first time I’ve actually been able to wear one. That’s my favorite thing about Canapé’s tops. They’re button downs that 1. actually fit over my chest without nearly splitting open, and 2. that fit me in a way that looks good on my body. I think a lot can be said for the fun patterns and colors, and how cool the bow tie element is. Those were definitely my favorite things to showcase when I styled the shirts, but the overall best thing about these tops for me is how they fit. I love that they have more masculine elements, but that they still look feminine on me.
Our Final Thoughts:
Despite shopping in different sections of stores, we’re still influenced by each other’s style.
I may love a pattern of a romper that she’s wearing or she may love the colors in a shirt that I’m wearing. We play off of each other’s styles, and this often influences how we shop. We love to complement each other’s looks, and we love to coordinate outfits.Couples that match together, stay together! Click To Tweet
Keeping Hannah’s and my style differences in mind, it’s impressive that we’re both able to incorporate these bow tie shirts created by our friends at Canapé into our wardrobes. The best part? For once, we really get to match!
For this photo set, we each got to try on two looks, one for day and one for night. You’ve already seen the best from the day, and below are our favorites from our night looks!
If you’ve made it this far…